Monday, July 4, 2016

Interacting with other individuals.

I know many of you will look at the title and probably heavily sigh the same way I did right before typing this post. Or maybe your smiling at the title because you've been meeting wonderful people as of late and that's more than wonderful.

Sadly, I have been getting my fill of crappy people or people who think they do not need to do some growing. We all need to grow and we will all never stop growing, never stop developing into a better version of ourselves. There are just some people, in my opinion, whom I've caught when there are the crappy version of themselves which is common at my age group (20's) and I am starting to see more of it considering the season. 

I am only 23 years old and I know there is so much for me to learn and boy am I learning as I keep going. I still have no job at the moment and it is a deep bummer for me because I love working, that is where I shine most of the time in my opinion. I say more of the time because I know if I am not feeling well emotionally, I won't be able to perform as well as I would if I was feeling alright. 

One thing my mentor has told me on more than one occasion is that I have to learn how to be able to leave my personal life behind me when I go to work and vise versa. I had no idea how difficult it would be the older I become. When I was younger and interacted with less people, it was much simpler to be able to put all that stuff behind me when I'm working on something. Now that I am older, some of these interacts makes me deeply think about how and why people do and say the things that they do and feel that they can justify it. I had a guy recently call me boring because I'm not into meeting someone to just have intercourse with them and that is disrespectful to me because I respected the fact that he is just looking for that, someone to not be serious with and just have intercourse with whenever possible, that's fine. Going out of your way to say I'm boring because that isn't my thing is plain disrespectful and rude. This all happened on Tindr by the way. I swear, I haven't been on Tindr long but I can definitely write a book at this point.

No one should take Tindr too seriously but do not forget that on the other side is another human being so at least be nice. If it doesn't seem to be heading a certain direction, just bid your goodbyes and unmatch each other, no need to be rude or disrespectful for whatever reason.

Online interactions and offline interactions are two different things and a lot of people fail to see that considering they think they can feel all they're going to feel due to growing up in the era of technology. You're not going to feel how you think you are going to feel, seeing a person in person instead of through an electronic device is different. You feel way more sensations and emotions in person than through your tablet and a lot of people keep forgetting about that and it is just saddening. You can't hold hands through your phone, you can't threaten to roundhouse kick someone properly through a device; it just isn't the same therefore you are not going to feel the same in both scenarios.

When it comes to these sorts of interactions and such there is only so much one ( I ) can do except to cut your loses and to continue to hope for the best. Those who are reading this and have been meeting great people, wonderful, keep trying to spend some time with them and see where you friendship may lead. Those who have been interacting with crappy people lately such as myself, eat a piece of chocolate or something savory, watch TV, playing a video and do not fret too long over this stuff because you are a wonderful human being inside and out. Sadly, we cannot say that about everyone and we are going to meet some pretty bad people. What matters is to tell the difference from good and bad so that you can get rid of the bad people as soon as possible.

I am finished with my rant.

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Until next time, Take Care <3

Be kind to yourself and others but don't be afraid to speak your mind when you are being disrespected because that shouldn't slide; do your best to speak up for yourself, it will feel empowering.